Imagine stepping onto the pickleball court, ready for a friendly game, only to feel repeatedly targeted because of your gender. Unfortunately, this is a common experience for many women in rec games.
We explore the dynamics of men targeting women, the impact it has on the game, and ways to foster a more inclusive and respectful playing environment.
Understanding the Issue
In competitive play, it’s a legitimate strategy to target the weaker player. However, in a recreational setting, it can feel like bad sportsmanship when men consistently choose to target women.
As one player shared, “My husband and I keep a list of players we prefer to steer clear of because they make the game less enjoyable. We’ve tried addressing the issue both directly and with humor, but it hasn’t made a difference.”
3 Reasons Why It Happens
Several reasons explain why men might target women during mixed play:
- Assumed Skill Gaps: Some guys think women are the weaker players and try to take advantage of that.
- Win-at-All-Costs Attitude: For some, winning is more important than keeping the game fun and balanced.
- Poor Court Positioning: Players who aren’t in the best spots on the court, no matter their gender, often get targeted.
One male player noted, “I focus on players with poor court positioning. It’s not about gender or skill—anyone who’s been playing for a few weeks understands this strategy.”
The Huge Impact on Women Players
Being targeted repeatedly can seriously affect women’s confidence and enjoyment of the game. Imagine stepping onto the court, excited to play, only to realize that every shot is coming your way simply because you’re a woman. It can feel discouraging and unfair.
One player shared her frustration, saying, “It’s really discouraging when every shot comes my way simply because I’m seen as the weaker player. It turns the game from a fun, friendly match into a challenge I can’t seem to overcome.”
Beyond the emotional toll, targeting can also hinder skill development. When every shot is directed at them, women might not get the chance to practice a variety of shots or work on different aspects of their game.
A female player expressed, “I’m aiming to improve my game to the point where being targeted isn’t a problem, but dealing with it right now is really frustrating.” This sentiment is common among women who find themselves the focus of constant targeting. They want to improve and show that they can handle the pressure, but it can be tough to keep spirits high when the game feels imbalanced.
Moreover, some women report feeling pressured to constantly prove themselves. “It’s like I’m under a microscope,” one player said. “Every error seems magnified, and it feels like I need to put in double the effort just to be recognized as capable.” This added pressure can be exhausting and take the joy out of playing.
Perspectives from the Court
Real-life experiences highlight just how differently people see this issue. Some think targeting is just smart strategy, while others see it as poor sportsmanship.
From the Men: “I focus on the less experienced players to get an edge. It’s not meant to be rude—it’s just a game strategy.”
From the Women: “When I’m constantly targeted, it feels really disrespectful and takes the fun out of the game.”
Strategies for Women Players
Ladies, here are some specific tips to help you improve your game and counteract targeting:
1. Enhance Your Skills:
- Drill for Reflexes: Work on quick reaction drills to improve your speed and agility.
- Practice Shot Accuracy: Spend time practicing different shots to become more unpredictable on the court.
2. Build Your Confidence:
- Positive Mindset: Focus on what you do well and remind yourself of your strengths.
- Be Assertive: Don’t be afraid to take charge on the court. Communicate clearly with your partner and call for the ball when you feel confident.
3. Master Court Positioning:
- Stay Up at the Net: Practice moving up to the kitchen line quickly and holding your position.
- Cover Angles: Be aware of where your opponent is likely to hit and position yourself accordingly.
Here’s a great tip from another player:
"Stack so you’re always on the right. Keep moving further right until they can only hit directly to you without making you move."
This tactic forces your opponents to adjust their strategy and can help neutralize targeting.
Here’s How To Foster Fair Play and Respect
Creating a positive and respectful atmosphere on the court is key to addressing targeting issues. Here’s how we can make it happen:
Start the Conversation: Encourage players to talk openly about targeting. Sharing concerns and finding solutions together can make a big difference.
Celebrate Good Sportsmanship: Highlight and applaud acts of fair play. Recognizing players who show respect and integrity sets a great example for everyone.
One player nailed it when he said, “Winning is great, but the way you win is important too. Picking on weaker opponents doesn’t earn you respect. Facing off against stronger players is what really counts.”
Let’s focus on lifting each other up and enjoying the game together.
Happy playing!
