Ever find yourself in a pickleball game where all you can think is: “Is anyone ever going to hit the ball to me?” Welcome to the not-so-exclusive club of players who feel like spectators on the court.
Let’s break down why this happens and what you can do to get more action!
1. The Targeting Phenomenon – Are You the Strong One?
If you’ve noticed that your partner gets 90% of the shots, don’t immediately assume it’s because you’re not good enough. It could be that you’re the stronger player (congratulations!) and your opponents are smart enough to avoid your skills.
Players often target the weaker link to increase their chances of winning, and if they think your partner is an easier target, well, you’ll be watching more than swinging.
When does this usually happen?
This typically happens at an intermediate to advanced level—when players start analyzing opponents rather than just hitting the ball back.
If your opponents have ever eyed your solid backhand or your intimidating position at the net and decided, “Nah, not today,” you might just be playing at the level where people think strategically.
What can you do?
If you’re tired of feeling left out, consider poaching. No, not the illegal type—pickleball poaching. This means stepping into your partner’s area and intercepting shots. It’s like saying, “I dare you to try to avoid me now!”
Just be careful not to overdo it and accidentally become a ball hog. No one likes that guy.
2. Partner Positioning – The Overlooked Key
Sometimes, it’s not you; it’s your partner. If your partner has positioning problems—like hanging out too far back or being slow to move to the net—guess what? They’re a sitting duck. And ducks get shot at (or in this case, dinked at) more often.
The opponents will hit to your partner simply because they aren’t in an optimal position, making them an easier target.
What should you do?
Talk to your partner! Kindly suggest they move up to the net more quickly or stay more active. And if you have a good rapport, you can even work on coordinated movement—like trying to shift to cover different parts of the court together.
But if your partner moves like molasses and won’t listen to your tips, it might be time to find someone else to play with.
3. Are You an Intimidator?
Do you crush every shot that comes your way? Smash, drive, hit hard—are these your love languages? If so, congratulations, but also, condolences.
People don’t generally like to hit at someone who’s going to obliterate the ball in their face. Recreational players especially just want to keep the rally going and have fun.
What’s the solution here?
Tone it down. Yes, you read that right—tone it down! Instead of power-hitting every ball, try a few dinks and play with more control. Show your opponents that they don’t have to fear getting into a rally with you.
As soon as they think you aren’t going to murder every shot, they’ll be more willing to hit your way.
4. Gender Dynamics – Let’s Get Real
Unfortunately, gender can play a role in shot distribution. Many players, especially at a lower recreational level, will target female players over males because they think it’s the safer bet.
If you’re a guy and your female partner is getting all the shots, this might be the reason, regardless of her skill level. Frustrating, but it’s part of the game.
What can you do?
Support your partner, but also consider showing opponents that you’re willing to be just as involved.
A good poach or two might make them rethink their strategy, but don’t go overboard—communication with your partner is key.
5. Tricks to Get the Ball Your Way – The Fun Stuff
If the classic poaching isn’t your thing, or if you’ve got a shy partner, here are a few other tricks:
- Call Middle Balls: Start calling out for those middle shots. Nothing says “I’m involved” quite like claiming the shots that hang between you and your partner.
- Positioning Bait: Stand slightly out of position. Yes, on purpose. Sometimes moving in an unexpected way can bait the opponent into hitting toward you. It’s risky but rewarding if done right. Plus, it’s a fun way to throw your opponents off their game.
6. It’s Not All Bad – Finding the Silver Lining
If you’re being avoided, it could mean that you’re just that good, or at least intimidating in some way. But think about what you can do while you’re not getting the ball. Use the time to practice tracking the ball, keeping a good ready position, and being prepared for when you do get a shot. Staying sharp is key so that, when you finally see that glorious opportunity, you can take full advantage of it.
Also, use this time to evaluate the game. If you’re not busy returning every ball, you have the perfect opportunity to analyze the other team’s weaknesses and help your partner with better positioning. You become the strategist—kind of like the Gandalf of pickleball.
7. When All Else Fails – Get Picky About Play Partners
If you’re tired of never being the target, maybe it’s time to up your game. Find players at your level or above who are going to push you, challenge you, and involve you. Sometimes this means getting out of recreational play and into arranged matches with similarly skilled friends.
It might seem elitist, but it’s your game—if you want more action, find those players who will give it to you!
