All of you who have rapidly progressed and hold your own in advanced games, it can be tempting to step in and coach beginners during open play. However, this well-meaning approach can often backfire if not handled delicately.
In this article, we’ll explore when it’s appropriate to offer coaching, how to do it effectively, and share insights from pickleball players who have experienced both sides of the coin.
The Temptation to Coach
The desire to coach comes from a good place. You want your partner to progress, which in turn can lead to more competitive and enjoyable games for everyone involved. It’s natural to want to share your knowledge and help others improve. After all, a stronger player on the other side of the net means better rallies and more exciting matches.
However, it’s essential to remember that unsolicited advice can often be more annoying than helpful. Beginners might feel overwhelmed, embarrassed, or frustrated if they receive too much feedback, especially if it’s not delivered in the right way or at the right time.
While you may have their best interests at heart, bombarding them with tips and corrections can make them feel self-conscious and detract from their enjoyment of the game.
When Should You Offer Coaching?
- Gauge Interest First:
- Ask if your partner is interested in feedback after the game, rather than during.
- Respect their answer if they decline.
- Watch for Cues:
- If a beginner asks for help or advice, that’s your green light.
- If they seem frustrated and vocalize confusion about their technique, offer assistance.
Player Tip: “During the game, I focus on discussing strategy rather than technique. After the game, if I’m playing with true beginners and notice they’re making a specific technical error, I’ll take a few minutes to practice some shots with them.” – Experienced Player
How to Offer Help Appropriately
- Be Encouraging:
- Focus on positive reinforcement rather than correcting every mistake.
- Use phrases like “Great shot!” or “Nice try!” to keep the atmosphere light.
- Small, Digestible Tips:
- Offer one or two specific tips rather than overwhelming them with information.
- Frame advice as optional suggestions rather than mandates.
Player Tip: “The best way to encourage beginners without being a nuisance is to highlight their good shots and let the rest slide. Even saying ‘nice try’ too often can get tiring. Instead, mix in a few ‘Great job!’ or ‘Thanks, partner!’ comments during the game to keep things positive.” – Seasoned Player
Avoid Common Pitfalls
- Don’t Coach Mid-Game:
- Coaching during the game can be distracting and often unwelcome.
- Save technical advice for after the game, if they’re interested.
- Avoid Condescension:
- Don’t intentionally mess up serves or force errors to make the game closer.
- Beginners prefer to improve through genuine play rather than feeling patronized.
Player Tip: “Nobody likes it when an opponent deliberately messes up shots to let them score. It feels patronizing and doesn’t do anyone any favors.” – Critiquing Player
Building a Positive Coaching Relationship
- Ask for Consent:
- After the game, ask if they’d like some feedback.
- Respect their response and be prepared to leave it at “It was fun playing with you” if they decline.
- Focus on Enjoyment:
- Remind them that it’s just a game and the goal is to have fun.
- Celebrate their efforts and improvements, no matter how small.
Player Tip: “If they ask for advice, kick things off by sincerely complimenting something they did well. Then, suggest one or two areas for improvement and keep it simple.” – Insightful Player
Handling Frustration When Your Partner Isn’t Progressing
It’s natural to feel a bit frustrated if your partner isn’t picking up the game as quickly as you’d hoped. Remember, everyone learns at their own pace, and patience is key.
Here are some strategies to manage your frustration and help your partner improve:
Take a Break: If you find yourself getting irritated, step off the court for a few minutes. Use this time to cool down and refocus.
Encourage Open Communication: Talk to your partner about their feelings and progress. Ask them what they think they need help with and listen to their concerns.
Switching Partners: At the end of the day, it’s also okay to switch partners and play with someone closer to your skill level.
Be sure to check out our article on handling an open play partner who struggles.
